Number 3: Day 25

Drama Character You’d Actually Want To Date

As a happily-married man, I used this entry to celebrate female characters who appeal for their authenticity, the sort of characters I might want to date were I single. The fact that there’s zero chance they would want to date me is happily irrelevant.The clear winner here is the remarkable woman above. And what makes her such an attractive person is the self-awareness summed up in that screencap. She was called Ms Temper by others and the mental images people had of her ranged from this:

To this:

but the reality is she was neither, and both. Ok Da Jung was a woman who knows herself, and that is very attractive. She owned her past mistakes and had learned from them. She refused to bullied and cowed, and it’s that lack of servility that earned her the Ms Temper tag from the chauvinist men she worked with, who all either struggled to, or were completely unable to come to terms with a competent, confident woman who was good at her job and who knew it. She confronted incompetence and the patriarchy head on, every time, usually at the same time:

I really enjoyed the progression of her character throughout the Drama. She was not a one-dimensional Superwoman. She had a fractious relationship with her mother, and having been divorced several times, she had a wariness of emotional closeness. Again, she knew and accepted these things about herself, and tried to change them when she saw a need.

In terms of the Drama Challenge category there was a similar progression. The “I’d like to date her” went from the perhaps predictable attraction felt by a (very) beta male for an alpha female to the attraction felt by an adult who saw another adult. That sense of grown up realism is exactly what I’d be looking for, and the end of the Drama was perfectly in tune with that reality. Too bad that I know for a fact I’d be at the back of a LONG line of people wanting to date this awesome woman!

Option B
Hayako Sensei
Not a runner up, since she’s also someone I’d be happy to date in this hypothetical alternate reality.  I tagged the image Hayako Sensei because being a teacher was at her core. Like Ok Da Jung, she was very good at her job, and knew it. She was thoroughly committed to her job too. The whole Drama was about her looking for someone she wanted to marry, but when she found one, both their respective jobs were put first, and the marriage was left as an assumed future event.
Again like Ok Da Jung, the 34 year old Hayako knew herself quite well, except when it came to love. Towering above everyone else in the Drama, “awkwardly gangly” would also be a good description of her personal interaction. Seeing her get advice from her married and pregnant little sister showed her uncertain hesitancy in understanding her own feelings. Staying at home all her life to help and support her parents and pouring herself into her work as an elementary school teacher had been her focus, leaving her uncertain and awkward in dealing with romantic love.
Another woman who knew who she was, in terms of her strengths and weaknesses,  Hayako had a sweet heart, and a disarming diffidence. Like the Drama she was in, she was a no-drama person. Her description of what constituted her ideal marriage gelled very nicely with mine, perfectly summed up here:
Two women with much in common and some significant differences. The hypothetical harabeoji would be happy to date either one.  Such a pity that one is far too alpha, and the other far too tall!

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